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Apr 21, 2020

Prayer Request

What should I do about my scum bag druggie brother who manipulates our mom into giving him money?

This dude just did five years in prison for intentionally crushing his two month old infant’s rib cage and rupturing her stomach. He’s been out for about three years now but is still on probation which he’s violated several times for possession of drugs and failing drug tests.

He just got evicted from his apartment for not paying his rent I’m assuming because he never paid anyone else rent ever. Now he’s moved into an unfurnished tiny old trailer and is renting to own for $90k. In the meantime he’s been at our house constantly wanting money or something for nothing.

Every time I see him he’s high or has drugs on him or in his car and claims to be broke. I used to use drugs myself and I know that being broke and having drugs means you’re prioritizing drugs before everything else. My issue is that instead of using his money to buy the things he needs, he buys drugs and then comes to me or my mom for more money.

Let me explain my disposition with my mom. My mom is 51 years and disabled from MS and for the past three years I’ve been taking care of her and working full time to pay the bills. I never buy anything. I do drink because I have CPTSD but it’s not a problem.

I never have people over though sometimes I’ll give my mom a couple hundred bucks and tell her to go shopping for a few hours while a girl I’m seeing comes over. It’s not like I’m moving someone in or something. However I still feel guilty about it as I do with everything else including these issues with my druggie brother.

Eitherway I know my brother is going to slip up and go back to prison. The guy is driving around right now on a dead temporary tag which will give probable cause for him to get pulled over. When that happens the cop will smell the weed and will have probable cause for a search and then they’ll find out that he has other harder drugs etc and he will go to jail.

I honestly don’t care. This guy has done nothing for me other than take from me and our mom. He hasn’t even bought her a Christmas or birthday present since he’s been out of jail. My mom took him in after the atrocity of him nearly killing an infant.

In fact he was laying up with some woman in his bedroom all day doing drugs on my mom’s birthday when he got out. He refused to come out or make the woman leave. He even let the woman put her stuff in our house and got her ID issued with my mom’s address on it trying to make her look like a legal resident/tenant there.

Meanwhile he was working at Burger King, not paying a dime in rent or bills, buying crap he didn’t need and continuing to bring this women into our house every day of the week. So we ended up putting him out. The next place he moved into he didn’t pay rent either and did things against the landlord’s wishes like keeping Pitbulls inside and selling drugs out the apartment.

The guy is a user. I’ve never been in trouble in my life except for getting a DUI when I was really young which I got dropped. I honestly feel like bashing his skull in when he comes to my house stoned and asking for more money. I don’t want to go to jail. I don’t deserve be brought down by someone like him. I only deal with him though because he has my mom snowed.

My prayer is that mom sees through my brother’s deception and holds him accountable for his actions.

The reason I took the time to write all this stuff is because I would like advice from others on what to do in a situation with someone like this. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.