How can reconcile when wife left to forgive other dont have to confess. The discussions kept secret from, with pastor. Told no big deal of issue. To accept as is now not look at before but blam on me as nothing happen or there. Excuse off ok because behaviors of wife exaggerated, only made worse Diverting off elephant in the room blam me. Trying to wait on lord can use prayers. Supose to renew vows in Oct. I'm struggling in trust and we're we stand in unity. Feeling God being silent.