Dear heart, when my husband passed away after 20 years together, the Lord had me pray a prayer which has helped others as well. In your own words pray something like this. Heavenly Father I come to you now, acknowledging that I bacame "one flesh" with this man (name him). I know Jesus said that in heaven we will not be married, so our relationship which was until death do us part, is now changed. I thank you that friends in Jesus Christ are friends forever, so that part of our relationship will go on into eternity. Right now however, I take back that part of me that I gave to my husband, and release the part of him he gave to me. I give both these parts to You Father and ask You to make me whole as a single person. I give You my grief acknowledging that I will forever miss this man and look forward to our reunion as friends in Your presence. I ask you to break all other soul ties now and set me free from the oneness that now belongs to You and I in Christ Jesus. Thank you Father and I seal our relationship in wholeness by the blood of the lamb. I also declare as Your word says that I will only remarry if it is your will, in your timing and for your purposes. Thankyou Holy Spirit.